To get a need satisfied, a boy or girl has to pay heed to the instruction or advice of a father. Such type of feeble relationship between a father and kids does not impact any significant effect, when the father gets mentally ill. The additional load of caring on the mothers' part in such cases is negligibly nil, since during normal lifestyle the load on the part of a mother is considerably greater than that of a father.
But when a mother gets mental depression and related psychic problems, the entire scenario is different. This is because normal role of a mother consists of several attitudes, actions and attachments in nursing the children. The impact on the kids of a mother becoming mentally insane is enormously big and is very complex in diagnosis and treatment. The effects of such insanity of a mother also vary on boys and girls. A mother's insanity creates a very strong psychological vacuum in a boy, changing entirely the mould of the boy's character. But the effect on a girl is purely pragmatic with minimum psychological break. The girls are naturally practical in their attitude. Hence, the impact of the mother's illness especially mental illness fades after certain period of time, leaving behind a few traces of the effect of the mental depression. On becoming an adult woman, she considers her mother's depression-caused ill effects as the due share of the latter's earlier deeds and accepts the whole past as such.
1.EARLY SOURCE OF MATERNAL DEPRESSION:
Long back in 1979, Marjorie Fiske has ascribed certain factors to the depressive illness of a mother. According to Majorie, most of the middle-aged women had willingly or reluctantly adopted a 'receptive-nurturing' form of behavior. Women exhibit this type of behavior at least until the end of child rearing period. Although it fits in some cases and does not fit in some other cases, the activities of women are mainly adapted to the needs and demands of other people. The fact that it does not fit to some women becomes apparent when the hidden resentments are so bitter that they lose their spontaneity and become sarcastic. After droning under the mask of becoming a good wife and mother, the latent reluctance in women assumes the role of emptying the nest. While such emptying the nest itself appears to be the cause of her distress, even a small seemingly unrelated event triggers the release of long pent-up emotions resulting from the feeling of being locked up. (Majorie Fiske, 1979)
Children of such reluctant mothers sense the lack of maternal joy and affection early in their lives especially in their infancy. This type of vacuum makes the children unable to understand the environmental impact on them. They seldom see the unhappiness as a result of forces within themselves. But since they are bereft of maternal affection, they consider the unhappiness a natural relation to external frustrations and they want the external environments to change instead of accepting the idea that they must change to get the unhappiness done away with. (Harry Gottesfeld, 1979)
1.2. MISCONCEPTION OF BEHAVIORISM
Misconceptions of child behaviors by the parents too become the cause of such depression and resultant outcome. Parents feel that the child's behavior is the source of their deperession, which is not actually the case. Richard O'Connor (2003), a mental health