After all this, my mother's fear and pain, the whole trauma of the experience has made her too frightened to visit her doctor. What happened back then showed me how the way in which a person is treated can affect them for the future. If we had been fully informed, step-by-step as to why things were happening, then maybe my mother and I would have a different view of the medical profession. They did not communicate well, and I do not think they respected my mother enough.
This came as a surprise to me, because Memorial was the place where I had my two babies and I was treated well, I would even call it my favorite hospital. When I was thinking back on what my mother suffered, I looked at the hospital's Mission Statement about patient care and communicated. They state clearly the ways in which staff should behave, and how patients should be treated. For examples, Core Standard 4 is "Utilize Effective Communication"
For me, listening is not just about what people say, but about looking at their expressions and reading body language. It also means taking into account different languages. If this had been done, my mother might have accepted better what was happening. But they just went ahead, not checking our understanding. This did not match with Core Standard 5, which says:
At the first biopsy, I truly believed they should have num...
At the first biopsy, I truly believed they should have numbed the breast. I still feel guilt and shame that I did not insist on this being done, as I watched my mother's pain. In researching the process of diagnosis for breast cancer, I found that when a fine needle is used in the first biopsy, it is sometimes considered more uncomfortable to put in the local anesthetic than just inserting the needle. But with my mother, a large needle was used, so this must have been a core needle biopsy, but nobody clarified exactly what or why things were done. I know I should have spoken up, told them to stop and give her an anesthetic, but I did not. In writing my story, I looked at the American Cancer Society website, and it states that a local anesthetic should be given for this biopsy. I ask the question, why did nobody consider her needs They seemed to think, after this biopsy that it was cancer, another frightening thing to deal with, along with the pain.
When we returned the next week, the needle localization took place, followed by 20 minutes of surgery to remove the lump. My research tells me that this might have been an 'incisional' biopsy, which
"Takes out part of the lump to be examined by a pathologist. Uses local or general anesthesia." (Editorial, Native American Cancer Website).
Or it might have been an 'excisional' biopsy which,
"Takes out the entire lump or the suspicious area. Used for lumps that are small. Uses local or general anesthesia." (Editorial, Native American Cancer Website)
My point is, why were my mother and myself not fully informed as to what was taking place The hospital standards say it will treat people as important, always keeping them informed, but I believe this did not happen. Both my mother and I