Romantic love, married love, adulterous love: happy love affairs, unhappy ones. Everyone knows about love, no one knows about friendship". (1) It is interesting to note that loneliness being one of the hallmarks of modern living, many modern great writers and photospheres have not given serious thought to friendship in their writings. Why is friendship such unimportant subject in modern fiction, poetry and essay Recent writing has largely ignored friendship. In contrast classical writers engaged in open discussion on the subject of friendship and made subtle distinctions on the varieties available and treated also the opposite of friendship, namely enmity, in their writings.
Montaigne makes a clear distinction between friendships. In his thinking there are levels of friendships. He uses the technique of contrast to present sharply his idea of true friendship. There are imperfect friendships, which he calls "fellowships". Borrowing an image from painting Montaigne labors at length to project the true beauty of friendship, which stands clearly demarked among images of the "grotesque". Montaigne's famous essay "On Friendship" (1580) is a true source book on the idea of friendship. The essay cites Aristotle, Cicero, Horace, Catullus, and Plutarch.
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ment of Montaigne on friendship in essential accord with Aristotle, or is there something new According to Aristotle the highest act of friendship is not just the friends themselves, but in their direct relation to truth. We are quick to notice the similarity between the thinking of Aristotle and that of Montaigne.But this similarity we feel is somewhat deceptive. While Montaigne gives the name of his friend, Aristotle does not. So Aristotle seem to be speaking about the contemporary situation in general not of a concrete instance of personal friendship. In Aristotle's thinking that most legislators are inclined to give more respect to friendship than to justice is only stating the facts of life as he saw it. Montaigne's idea of friendship is rooted on the idea of choice. Friendship is based on a determination. Perhaps there were various attractions that triggered the liking to the friend. The passage of time can alter or negate these attractions. Will friendship continue even then It should. Montaigne's idea of friendship is rooted on the idea of the other as a person. Yves Simon, in his reflection on friendship refers to Montaigne idea of the beloved as a person. According to Schell: "we love someone because of beauty, what happens when it is destroyed by disease Marriage vows suggest that these changes are to be considered to be part of the friendship of marriage, for better or for worse. So if we are asked what it is in a friend that we are related to in friendship, we respond that it is the person, the being of the friend"(121)
Montaigne draws distinction between "fellowship" and "friendship". The main variable that determines the division between the two is inequality. The relationships with parents, children and siblings since they involve inequality are