This really shatters their growth and strength and finally they loose their mental stability at times of depression. He says that many of them blame their parents for being too protective, and just because of this they loose all the chances of meeting new and varied challenges. In this way, the book also examines children's attitude towards their parents.
"What we want for our children is a perfect life devoid of hardship and pain," Kindlon states. "But their happiness as adults is largely dependent on the tools we give them, tools that will allow them to develop emotional maturity-to be honest with themselves, to be empathetic, to take initiative, to delay gratification, to learn from failure and move on, to accept their flaws, and to face the consequences when they've done something wrong."
The book stresses on the point that parents should spend much of their time with children discussing about their actions, desires and so on. They should talk to them freely and must always create a friendly atmosphere. The book also teaches how parents can reach out to their children, teach them engagement in rewarding activity, and promote emotional maturity and a sense of self-worth.
The book, in my opinion is really a wonderful expression of the relationship between parent and child. The main focus of the author is on the parents, who according to him are too indulgent towards their children. Being protective and indulgent is not wrong but, when it is goes out of control, the children are really affected. Children do not have the opportunity of facing the problems by themselves. And as the children grow, they become more dependent towards their parents and develop less courage to face the world. Parents should leave their children to sort out things by themselves, so that they will be able to get more knowledge out of every experience.
The author states clearly that instead of encouraging them to take life's challenges and work hard toward their goals, parents try to protect them from every failure. Kindlon argues that society's focus on achievement and success has replaced the emphasis on developing an inner moral compass; its absence makes it hard for kids to take responsibility for their actions and have meaningful, fulfilling relationships.
He brings out the reality of parents who never spend time with their children. In this case, the children have no opportunity of expressing their feelings to their parents and the overall relationship between the child and the parent is ultimately spoiled. Such children grow, alienated living in same family. They develop their own interest and make decisions in their own and this could lead to dangerous consequences later on in their life. Children should enjoy the love and warmth of their parents and should feel that they are supportive always. Though the author says that parents should listen to the opinions of their children, he mentions clearly that the final decision should be made by parents. In my view, if the desire or wish of the child is good, we should not stand in their way. We should help and support them to achieve their goals and only then we can be right parents.
The book also throws light on the material possessions of the children. The author says tha