Therefore, a divorce between couples is not a private matter but it is a community divorce. Remarriage in a family most often ends in disharmony.
Divorce leaves everybody shattered. Grandchildren are separated from their immediate grandparents. Usually in a divorce children below the age of 18 are given the custody to the mother. She leaves her in laws’ house and so does the grandchildren. In most of the cases the grandchildren keep in regular touch with their paternal grandparents. Even the daughter-in-law keeps in touch. If the children are handed over to the mother who shifts to her parents’ home for support then they become closer to their maternal grandparents. If the mother remarries with 2 children with a man with kids, the children take time to adjust or never adjust at all.
Stepfamilies don’t bond the same way as the first families do. There are isolated cases where a child is welcomed wholeheartedly into the new household. He may enjoy the love of even 6 grandparents and a large family of cousins, step cousins, aunts and uncles. Due to increase in divorces and remarriages the older parents face mid-life crisis. They feel unwanted and feel lonely. Grandparents may fear that they could lose contact with their grandchildren to the other family.
“Legal divorce is the dissolution of the marriage by the state through a court order terminating the marriage”. The attorney argues and blames both the spouses and wins the battle. A divorce is like a death. It is the death of a relationship. Hence, it needs time for mourning. Generally, the person who has filed for a divorce has went through this mourning period. Therefore, it is the other person who grieves the loss. A legal divorce is usually preceded by an emotional divorce. “Emotional divorce involves withholding positive emotions and communications from the relationship” (Vaughen 1986). There are also psychic divorces where people may remain in marriage yet divorced