Parents must be strong, patient and flexible travelers who would adjust to the situation given to them. Later towards the end of the journey, the parents would see in their golden years what kind of travelers they were.
There is no course or learning program for people who would be parents one day that is why it is difficult to assume the role. It is a wonderful adventure yet quite fearful since many unexpected things can happen along the way. The important thing is to be prepared that is why married couples planning to have children must be able to settle their individual differences and adjust to each other before having a child. Each parent have different family background and experiences unless they share similar cohort ( classmates, next-door neighbors, childhood sweethearts) whose lives have been fused by their growing up experiences( Chapter 12). Nevertheless, they have their own individuality that would highly influence their decisions as they have witnessed and experienced from their collective efficacy.
In short, the traveler’s backpack is already filled with their individuality that would soon come out along the journey of parenting. As they pull-out from their bags their own experiences to deal with situations (i.e. my mother taught me that the best way to cure fever…..) their child would absorb from them such ideas and experiences too. A bag filled with bitter, resentful, and painful life experiences would make the journey hard for the parent unless he/ she use them to teach life’s lessons and give hope to their children.
The traveler’s also need to bring with them food on the journey to nourish their children with. These food are the family rituals, celebration, traditions and routine which according to Friesen helps ” families establish habits that can help them succeed and connect on a regular basis. The familiarity of repeated activities and