Our identities are influenced and shaped by a number of structures. The key structures being a)the family we are born into b)The nation we are born into and c)our gender. So we may well ask, do we have any control over our identities How can we We cannot control any of the above factors. It's all a matter of
Our family: Our family plays a vital role in shaping our personality. The status and class of the family that we are born into plays an important role. Not only that, the attitudes of our family members set a precedent expectation from us. For example, the number of siblings that you have as well as your own number, whether you are a elder brother or sister, or a middle one or the youngest one will definitely have a greater say in deciding how you yourself turn out to be. Each and every moment of your life that you lead impacts and etches a stamp on your personality.
Our nation: while we are growing up, we are constantly influenced by the environment. Things that happen around us are going to color our thoughts and belief patterns for ever. There is peer pressure which gives life to our personality, helps us in making choices. While we are in our teens, the growth stage of our country will definitely have its impact on us. A person in a third world country will definitely have different values as compared to a person in a developed country as ours. The values that our country stands for are the values that we will take up albeit subconsciously. It may happen occasionally that we may take an opposite stand; this is just the growing up phase. Youths have a need to prove themselves even it means getting rebellious. Then there is the herd mentality. Just
because your friends think so, you do too or may be that's the sole reason you do not. So it all depends on your need of the moment. Changes offer new opportunities along with new challenges, so changes will test your mettle in adverse circumstances.( Kath Woodward ,2004 , Questioning Identity, Gender, Class, Nation)1
Our Gender: Last but not the least; gender plays an important role in forming our so called identity. There is some substance in the saying; Men come from Mars, Women from Venus. How exactly does the gender affect our identities It is in the perception and the expectation that are set on us as individuals by the society. Besides the different genetic make up of the sexes, the expectation set by society also plays in important role in creating and widening the gap between men and women. Different opportunities are given to us just because we belong to a particular sex.The environment within which a child is raised may determine his personality to a large extent.The parental support that he may receive as a result of him belonging to a particular gender will certainly influence his thoughts.
( http://findarticles.com/p/articles)2 As we move into the 21st century, on the surface, it may seem that there is equality between the sexes, but read between the lines, and you will see that with all the progress made, the fairer sex has brought with