On behalf of the qualitative analysis findings from a program,which I conducted of theoretical and empirical research regarding friendship from an exclusive array of British students and employees from Midlands,I investigated open-ended interviews with over 50 persons including adults ranging from 22-39 years of age. From them what I come to analyze is the fact that frustrations and delights of friendship emerge during childhood and often continue throughout life. However, the friendship after the teenage is dependant upon several aspects ranging from social disciplines to personal involvements.So, besides the rudimental features a true friendship is expected to possess, like trust, reliability, honesty, and mutual understanding the primary aspect to focus upon is "the true identification of friends". In case of an example, let us consider neighbours, neighbours are also close to us but physically; we do not choose neighbours as our friends. We can find them anywhere we move. If we are lucky, we trust them and enjoy their company, but neighbours as such are not friends. A good neighbour is available for casual chats, occasional help, and recourse during emergencies. Like friends, good neighbours trust each other. But trust between neighbours is restricted to particular functions and is not as full and deep as the trust between good friends. (Govier, 1998) Typically, with neighbours there is little intimacy or deliberate cultivation of shared activities. If we are fortunate, our neighbours are amiable, helpful, and undisturbing. Some of them may become our friends. But to be a neighbour, even a good neighbour, is not yet to be a friend.
Trust and Friendship
Our vulnerability extends even after friendship ends. Our former friends may have possessions of ours, things given symbolic value within the relationship. They certainly know many things about us, some of which we would not want to become public knowledge. Because of their knowledge and their role in our lives, these people retain a power to hurt us, even after the friendship is over. This lasting power further illustrates two basic facts about trust and friendship: friendship is based on trust, and when we trust, we are vulnerable. We love and need our friends and assume our life without them would be scarcely bearable. And yet our friends can hurt us, even after a friendship has ended quite painlessly. Should we avoid closeness to protect ourselves The answer cannot be yes, for in avoiding the intimacies and joys of friendship, we would deprive ourselves of too much in life. Rather, the solution lies in picking the right friends in the first place.
Trust also affects our understanding of other people, our sense of who they are and what they are doing. In fact, it affects our basic conception of human nature and our general sense of what sort of world we live in. Trust is in essence an attitude of positive expectation about other people, a sense that they are basically well intentioned and unlikely to harm us.
Honesty and Friendship
While analyzing the facts from the interviewees, I came to know the values honesty upholds in friendship especially among females from 25-29 years, honesty intimates mutual confidentiality. According to my analysis 70% of interviewees expect honesty in any relationship.
"Honesty is the ground to built upon a building of relation, it should be strong
enough to uphold the relationship and prevent it from forces of nature" - Nicole,