While children should not be put in the middle of such quarrels, they should also not be forgotten when it comes to the decision-making process of which parents, if not both, get custody.
Child custody is widespread throughout the United States as divorce rates increase. The majority of couples that do divorce have children, therefore making custody battles inevitable. More often than not, custody is awarded to both parents, which is known as joint custody. In some cases, custody is awarded to the parent that can provide the most for their child, or to the more fit of the two parents.
Before the days of joint custody, the sole custody of the children would usually be awarded to their mother. There would be very little in the way of court cases in favor of the father unless he had substantial proof that he would be the better provider for his children. The majority of states required that the mother be the sole caregiver for her children, while the fathers had to make due with visitations. Nowadays, the growing trend of child custody involves both parents getting joint custody of their children, though mothers still get a larger percentage of time with their children than fathers. Some parents, on the rare occasions that they get along well enough to discuss things equally, have made it possible for their children to spend equal time with each of their parents.
Children put in the middle of divorce cases and custody battles often withdraw themselves from everyone - friends, family, and parents especially. They do not wish to be reminded of their current and ongoing situation.