Divorce is stressful, and it has a major impact in the lives of the parties involved; both parents and children.
This essay will outline the causes of divorce, how it has affected the community, the society’s perception of divorce, and describe a few ways of improving the current situation as far as divorce is concerned.
The leading cause of problems in relationships is usually lack of communication. This manifests itself in the absence of ‘together time’ in a marriage. With the current world demanding maximum output from employees, most persons find themselves so engrossed in delivering at the work place that they forget the importance of the family unit to their well being. These persons arrive at home late, with little or no time at all to bond with their partners. The partners may feel neglected. Over a period of time, resentment seeps in due to the inadequate communication. While some spouses may sit down and talk their things through, others opt to seek to divorce rather than be stuck with a person who they feel doesn’t care at all (Graff 2004).
Infidelity is another factor that is pushing spouses to divorce. With the current pressures of life, distance between married partners, breakdown in communication and a mass media that glamorizes infidelity, cheating is becoming common in today’s family units. This has led to loss of trust, the cementing factor in any relationship. As a result, persons are opting to file for divorce rather than live with an unfaithful partner. They prefer this rather than living with the emotional hurt of being cheated on and the risk of contracting sexually transmitted diseases especially HIV (Human Immuno-deficiency Virus) (Thomas 2000).
Other causes include boredom in a marriage, where a partner feels that the other has become dull and un-adventurous. Disagreements in issues such as money, in-laws, sex and children can also lead to divorce. Drug abuse especially chronic alcoholism has also led to divorce