It can be derived from the report and the previous research conducted on the topic that according to the dictionary.reference.com divorce is “a judicial declaration dissolving a marriage in whole or in part, especially one that releases the husband and wife from all matrimonial obligations.” Divorce is a way a husband and wife get free from the bond of marriage. After divorce they are open to marry any other person or live as they want to. They are no more answerable to each other. There are countless reasons why people choose separation as the last resort. Below are some reasons for divorce:
• When expectations get high and spouses are unable to stand up to the expectations of their partners, problems arise.
• Often arranged marriages take place in many societies and cultures which involves the family and relatives choosing a groom for the bride, or a bride for the groom overlooking the wishes of the bride and the groom. When marriage is enforced on someone, it arouses reasons for divorce, example the girl may be abused after marriage and she may ask the court to get her a divorce.
• Marriages with strange persons and between persons of different compatibility sometimes result in disaster. Not only physical compatibility is required but mental, spiritual and sexual compatibility is also very essential for the marriage to survive.
• Spouses having affairs with colleagues in offices or with any other outside person.
The Rates of Divorce in the World: What usually happens in “reel” life certainly does not happen in real life. We expect our real lives to be just like the “reel” life where the hero and heroine sing love songs on a snow covered mountain and romance away or the hero buys expensive gifts for the heroine and does things for her which are fictitious and totally impractical in real life. All this leads the youth especially the girls far away from the harsh realities of life and on getting married, we create difficulties for our own selves as well as for our life partners. No wonder the rates of divorce are increasing year after year all over the world. According to the United Nations demographic year book, the country which has the highest rate of divorcees has 5 divorcees every 1000 people. The other countries have 3.6 divorcees out of every 1000 people and so on. So we can see how rates of divorce are increasing. (Reich, 2010) Effects of Divorce: Whatever may be the reason for a divorce, it adversely affects both the spouses, families and societies. No one marries thinking that he/she would end up divorcing later on. Undoubtedly, people think that marriage is a new beginning of their lives with their spouses. They would live happily and will not be like other married people fighting over little things and their relationship would last for a lifetime. After some time you realize that it is not happening the way you thought it to be. Slowly, for reasons you may not understand, your dream seems to shatter. As you try to find a way out of the pains and hurdles that come in your relationship, the only attractive and appropriate way you would find will be divorce. Your thoughts would be, “ after all everyone gets a second chance.” , “ maybe I married the wrong person, the other man fits well with me” or you may think “ I need a break” ; “Marriage itself is a problem. Being single is better.” Before you escape from the jail of marriage, stop and look in which part of paradise you will be entering. Most people are not aware of the difficulties of post-divorce life which they would have to face. Below I will be discussing about the effects of divorce on men,