If they do well, we praise. If they fail, they must hear plain truths from us. That is not abusive.
I disagree with Amy that children should be allowed to have friendships, sleepovers, and other fun activities lest they rebel. Providing a balance hopefully minimizes bitter rebel. In a public argument with Lulu, she screams out that she is not a Chinese and that she hates her life, her mother, and family. To perform like an Olympian, you must train like one. Amy soundly is denounced for simply raising her daughters the same way. Parents of ‘Olympic athletes’ have a grueling schedule and parenting style.
Youngsters experience much joy when they master a skill. They can do so much with the skill, which requires discipline to master. Chua herself was brought up with the Chinese parenting model. I also disagree with her view that childhood is a training period, a time to build character and invest in the future of the child. Consequently, both the daughters are A students, over-achieving and musically accomplished. By age 14, Sophia performed Prokofiev’s Juliet as a young girl at the Carnegie Hall in New York while Lulu, at age 11 performed at the auditions for the pre-college program at the Juilliard School (Paul