Care giving is considered to be integrally related to attachment in relationship and defines the rapport between the child as the care giver and the parents as the care receivers (Pistole, 1999). From the point of view of the attachment theory, parents who had coddled and hyper parented their children are justified in their expectation of getting similar love and attention from their children. It has also been seen that in most cases children too were duly attached to their parents. The Exchange theory throws similar light on the functioning of the relationship between adult care giving children and the aged parents. But it also points out the natural equation of give and take in any kind of relationship including parent-child that is subject to change on the basis of socio-economic factors like resources, social class, health, and quality of the relationship (Durant and Christian, 2007). So, there is every possibility that if the care giving child is under family or economic stress and feel the parents to be burden, the child might not reciprocate as per the parents’ expectation. Regarding the consequences of undue parental expectation, it could be said that providing care for one’s parents is considered as part of societal norm and is in no way held to disrupt care giving requirements.
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