This paper will focus on the development and growth of intimacy between partners before a marriage and how this intimacy and connectedness develop throughout the marriage and changes it undergoes in old age. The paper is based on a movie ‘The Notebook’ and guided by the thesis that important family relationships are developed with patience and grown to perfection to old age.
Observing development and growth of intimacy between spouses from the movie required a cool and quiet environment. This is because the development of the story and the ‘take-back’ aspect of the movie requires concentration and attention. A home setting was selected as the most appropriate and the noise was largely manageable. We were able to rewind the movie at will and pause to discuss a point in the movie.
The movie features a couple whose search for love and intimacy calls for a great deal of patience and making of difficult choices. Further, the movie depicts a family that is eager to keep the love and intimacy for long and through to old age even when one of the partners does not recognize the other or even their own story. At the start of the movie, a man is reading a love story to a woman who has dementia in a nursing home. As the movie develops, we are made to understand that the wonderful story that the woman can barely recall is her love story and the man reading the story is her husband who is visiting her at the care center.
This movie is a contemporary love story of Noah and Allie. After the two spend a summer together, they become great friends but their desire for intimacy and love is prevented by family and socioeconomic realities of Allie’s family. The two are forced to separate, but Noah tries to keep contact with numerous unanswered letters. In a final letter, he declares his undying love for Allie and later travels away from the village to escape the frustrations. Eventually, Noah